|Posted on August 6, 2017 at 4:05 PM|
"The older I get, the more I realize that just keeping on keeping on is what life's all about." Janis Ian
We all have felt at times like the world has crumbled upon ourselves. We've felt in a hole, a dark bit of reality, caused by negative feelings. It can be disappointments, bad news, a difficult moment in a relationship, failures, you name it.
In those times, it can be really hard to see the way out. We only know it's necessary to get out, for our own sake (the realization coming sometimes after quite a while). How do you put yourself together? How do you decide it's important to move on and you're ready to let go? What would be the best frame of mind to have?
I’ve been there, I know that feeling. I pulled myself out of depression years ago. It’s absolutely amazing that I haven’t fallen back into the struggle. I have been challenged in so many ways over the past year or so. It started with losing my mom, struggling with a change in ownership at my job, losing staff that were not replaced, having to sell my home which my boys grew up in due to divorce, and just a few weeks ago… breaking my leg and having to have surgery. Thankfully, I’ve been able to keep my head about me and keep a positive frame of mind.
Whenever you want to get out of that “bad situation frame of mind” you just need to realise that the answers to how can only be found in yourself. Give yourself importance. Realise that there's nobody else that can be you better than you, right now, or ever.
You need to turn to yourself and focus. Forget about what caused you to be in the bad-feeling situation and forget about all your feelings. Focus on who you are and what you want - to achieve, to become, to have... If you have a clearly defined goal, focus on it.
Concentrate on how it would feel to achieve what you want. Feel good. Enjoy feeling good. Use this energy as strength to go ahead. Whenever you start feeling bad, come back to what makes you feel good and light the fire. Years ago when I was a teenager, my go to was dance. Now in my later years, it’s meditation, writing and the outdoors.
Know that there is nothing to fear and you will never be alone, for there will always be someone at there for you. Decide to have a positive attitude no matter what.
Besides, there is nobody or anything bigger than you. You are perfectly capable of enjoying a good life within yourself, and you do not need anybody else to help you do so.
Have the courage to be yourself and do what you must to achieve what you want. The strength that you need is always within yourself. Remind yourself of your goals. Don't ever give up.
Feel good with yourself and keep on keeping on!
Let's do this together!
Peace, Happiness and Light to you!
Your Life Coach